JP and I used to get out about once a month or so for "date nights." (We are lucky to have somewhat local, always willing grandparents to help us out with this.) Usually a movie was involved. Occasionally dinner if we were feeling really fancy. Since baby A's arrival, our date nights are fewer and farther between. Since we're both away from the kids for the better part of our weekdays and the occasional weekend for work, it seems pretty crummy to take time out for just us. However, I am also realizing more and more how HUGELY important these moments are to our relationship, so I decided that in 2013 we are going to try to do at least four different "adventure" dates - one per quarter - that take us a bit more out of our "dinner and a movie" comfort zone.
Adventure #1: Mendocino, CA and Ridgewood Ranch
One of my best girlfriends from high school got married last weekend and, since I was one of the matrons of honor (Co-MOH if you will), we opted not to take the kids with us. We had a nice time reconnecting during the 4.5 hour drive (each way) without having to placate any little people along the way. I was pretty busy Friday and Saturday with wedding stuff, but on our way home on Sunday we had a random adventure together that took me back to our dating days and the first 7 years of our marriage when we used to take spur of the moment road trips on the weekends.
Before our trip JP did a little research about the area. In his research he discovered that the legendary racehorse Seabiscuit made his home in Willits, CA. Now, a little known fact about JP is that he is really into horse racing. Now, don't mistake him for a hardcore gambler - he's not. He might spend $20 a year going to one horse race at the county or state fair each summer. He just likes the challenge of figuring out which horse is going to win. One year he spent hours figuring out a mathematical equation that would help him determine which horse would win. Hours. That's my husband ladies and gentlemen. He buys chickens and turkeys, learns how to prune vines and make honey, and spends hours analyzing the science of horseracing, among other things...just for fun.
I'm looking forward to next quarter's "Date Adventure."